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38 YEARS AN EXILE IV

HOME AT LAST! Part 4
Love In Exile/ Women of Exile

Exile land women in love with men in exile get less recognition, acknowledgement, and respect than they deserve.

Were I a woman, I would never ever fall in love with an exile man in my land. Exile men are nothing but a load of trouble.

However, my South African mother did fall in love, and eventually got hitched to an exile man from far off Northern Rhodesia. Now, look what we got! Americans got Obama … (Continued in the book: “MACHONA AWAKENING – home in grey matter”. Order book on Amazon’s CreateSpace here)

 

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Simon Chilembo
Riebeeckstad
Welkom
South Africa
March 28, 2014

 

 

eKASSIE THABONG

 THABONG, KASSIE YA KA KA 2014

©Simon Chilembo, 2014

On Monday morning, walking the breadth of my old Kassie, Thabong, Welkom, for the first time in 40 years, by way of pungency in the air, nothing has changed.  After 2-3 weeks of torrential rains, there is stagnant water in many places.

The superlatively built storm canals are clogged; green sediment/ moss and wild vegetation growth all the way. Burst sewerage pipes here and there; long, open canals of slow-moving, if at all, shit created as a result of slow and/ or erratic maintenance.

As if ordered, there’s a carcass of a cat on the edge of a busy taxi street. Indications are at the cat hasn’t long been run over by a vehicle. No doubt, there is also a dead dog nearby, perhaps somewhere in the messy storm canals. No need to confirm. Dead dog eKassie? I know it when I smell it. Just keep on moving straight ahead. Nose getting blocked. Getting a headache. Feeling queasy.

How did I grow up in these conditions? How do people, how can people still be living in these conditions in Mzansi, the golden land of milk and honey for sho? No wonder old people seem ever so tired, and “ugly” here. Been away too long … (Continued in the book: MACHONA BLOGS – As I See It. Order Simon Chilembo books on Amazon)


Simon Chilembo

Welkom
South Africa
February 13, 2014

SECRET OF PERSONAL SUCCESS: Don’t care about people?

©Simon Chilembo,  09/ 12-2012

©Simon Chilembo, 09/ 12-2012

If you are normal, and you want to be successful and happy (it’s okay to be not normal and still want to be successful and happy; if you don’t want to be successful and happy because you really don’t care, just pretend you do want to be successful and happy anyway) do the following (if you don’t want to do the following, pretend it’s a cool thing to do and just do it anyway):

  • Be yourself (you can also be someone else if that’s what you’d rather do because it’s cool, and it works for you).
  • Be where you are (if you don’t like where you are, find a new place to be; if you can’t find a new place to be you like, pretend you like where you are and be there).
  • Do what you do (if you do not like what you do, find something else you like to do; if you cannot find something else you like to do, pretend you like what you do because it’s so cool after all).
  • Be honest to all the above. It’s also okay to be dishonest to all of the above if it’s the honest and cool thing to do.
  • Be the best you can be in all the defining things you do. If you can’t be the best because it doesn’t matter or because the going is tough, just believe you are the best because you believe it’s cool to be the best even if you don’t want to be.
  • Don’t care about people! Just serve them well and good all the time.
    – People are not stupid, even if some like to pretend to be clever in order to be stupid.
    – Normal people know what’s good and what’s bad. Not normal people also know the difference. People normally like and approve of things and people that are good to them, people and things who add value to their lives.
    – If you are good to people, and you serve them well, they will share the happiness you give them with you; they will make you successful. So,
  • Be nice to people. If only simply because it’s cool to be nice, and it’s nice to be nice. Your relative degrees of personal success and happiness are a measure of how well or not well you interact with people in your serving endeavours, both in general and specific terms.

Simon Chilembo

Oslo

Norway

Tel.: +47 97000488/ +27 717454115
October 08, 2012 

MY OSLO SUNRISE

©Simon Chilembo, 2012

Sun rose at 6
In Oslo today
She looked up
From her phone
Her stellar eyes petrified me, momentarily
She beamed
“Hei! Morn, morn!!!”
My day was made

We alighted the bus at same stop
My dazed eyes followed her
Round the corner
I went my way
Glorious light all the way
No sunset
In Oslo tonight

©Simon Chilembo, 14/ 11-2012

OSLO
Norway
Tel.: +47 97000488/ +27 717 454 115 (South Africa)

ENTER THE FUTURE

LIVE YOUR FUTURE TODAY
With
COOL Coaching /
Chilembo Optimal Outcomes Life Coaching 

Many people are often stuck in one and the same place in the present; the present in which time seems to have stood still because nothing seems to go right in their lives, if anything happens at all to begin with. These people go round living unfulfilled lives of diminished/ diminishing mental and physical energy curtailing creativity, as well as the ability to effectively manage own lives towards realizing specific goals and ambitions, be it healthy living, career/ professional development and growth, or nurturing of personal relationships.

In random and far between bursts of short term creative energy, projects after projects will be started with great enthusiasm, only to be left incomplete or poorly finished due to lack of passion and killer instinct. Such is the never ending cycle of frustrations and disappointment maintained, spiritually and materially killing the concerned slowly; depriving them of visions, and possible attainment, of a bright and fulfilling future full of joy, happiness, and boundless creativity. Feelings of isolation, exclusion, and dismissal become the order of the day, making it impossible to function harmoniously both socially and professionally. Adding lasting value to anything in life is out of the question at this level, with poverty and its offshoots of ignorance and disease, awe and jealousy, inevitable.

To rationalize their hopeless situations, the kind of people described above will often blame the past and the people therein for their perceived own ill fortunes. Standing on ever weak and vulnerable ground in the present, these people will be so afraid of the future that failure will necessarily become a self-fulfilling prophecy.  For these people the future is dark and mysterious, a no-go zone worse than the miserable present.

The model I have developed below is to help people come out of the fangs and entanglements of the past inhibiting them to live free, happy, fulfilling, and creative lives real time. The future is indeed constantly within us all, helping us live it out in the present always; only we use lessons from the past to help us build a bright future for others and ourselves today.

GET THE BEST OUT OF YOUR LIFE AND OTHERS BY:

  • Living your future in the present
  • Relating critically to the past
    – Repeat not done mistakes
    – Take past successes to higher levels by default
  • Believing in the future
    – That’s the only place you’ll enjoy the desired outcomes of your dreams and efforts: TODAY
    – That’s the only place which has all you need to get there: TODAY

Learn how to LiveYourFutureNow® with COOL Coaching. I am available for consultations in Oslo throughout the summer. I can also help you find the answers to other challenging situations in your life currently. You may be faced with making potentially life-changing choices that will define your future; I can help you structure your thoughts, getting you to focus on the right and relevant issues.

I’m also available as long-term Conversation Partner, Communication Sparring Partner, Mentor, and Guide. I have more than 30 years’ experience of working with people to help them get the best out of themselves, as well as others. I groom holistic Communication Warriors, leaders, and teachers.


Simon Chilembo
COOL Coach/ NLP Master Practitioner

Tel.: +47 97000488
Oslo
Norway
27/ 06-2012